Transcript of Sinders Sisters Podcast
E8: Do you juggle with plastic or glass balls?
In this episode, we're diving into the challenge of maintaining control—both over our minds and our lives—as we navigate the sometimes-unattainable balance of running a business while raising children. From the relentless juggling act to the unforeseen chaos that comes with parenthood, we explore strategies for harnessing control amidst the whirlwind of entrepreneurship and family life. Join us as we share personal anecdotes, expert insights, and practical tips for finding equilibrium in the midst of it all.
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Meghan
In today's episode, Stacey was completely unprepared because I didn't tell her that we were going to be making an episode.
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Stacey
I'm sitting here. We're still. I'm still waiting. I'm still waiting to find out what it is. What are we talking about today Meg?
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Meghan
We're talking about trying to control your brain, keep control of the situation, run a business and have kids. This is going to be good.
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Stacey
Welcome to the Chronicles of Caffeine And ambition hosted by the Sinders Sisters. I’m Stacey.
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Meghan
And I'm Megan. And what we are here to do on our podcast is tell you about business, life, families. Essentially everything that we do. We want to share with you because we have a lot of self-confidence. We've learned a lot of self-confidence over the years. We sure have, and we want to share that with you. We want to show you how.
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Stacey
Let's do this.
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Stacey
I got, like, bamboozled into this. I came back in the shop and Meg says, I want to do a podcast. I was like, but we are doing a podcast and she's like, no, like, want to do a podcast? And I'm really confused at this point because I'm also not with it today. So I'm like, but we are doing a podcast, Meg.
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Stacey
Now I'm realizing she meant like, sit down, we're talking to the.
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Meghan
Microphone you're going on. It was my hold over by diabolical plan and you will understand why. No.
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Stacey
I don't want to do this.
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Meghan
What's it like running multiple businesses with kids?
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Stacey
Chaos. Chaos.
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Stacey
Chaos. And somebody stirring the cup all the time. It's like chaos in a cup. And they're just like. Yeah, somebody else has the spoon.
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Meghan
Do the partial. They work for Stacey for kid reasons. Yes. I figured this would be a good time to talk about running businesses and being a mom.
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Stacey
Rewarding on both sides. Rewarding in that it's very cool to be able to have our kids see what we do. Coming to work with us, watch us run a business. I don't know, like there's so many things, but also the kids being able to be in the business and helping to, which is kind of important that it's a community and how we treat other people, how we treat the team, you know, that works for us.
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Stacey
I think it shows a lot about us to the kids without them even knowing it. I think it's a good point. Yeah, that part is great.
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Meghan
Because we try to treat our team like a family. Yes. I mean, your kids are older, so one or more of them have been in situations where they worked for someone else, then it wasn't necessarily a good workplace. Totally agree. And because we do what we do and treat our our people the way that we treat them, you can see when it's not a good place and it's hard to watch them work in that.
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Stacey
Yeah, definitely.
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Meghan
A lot of them are littler. And that's the funny thing about combining the two or trying to combine the two. Sometimes you feel like you're losing your mind, but. So Stacey just picked up one of hers and my two older get off the bus at work. So three of them are here. And I said to Stacey, how do you feel about doing a podcast?
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Meghan
And that was her confusion. And then I said, how do you feel about getting the kids out of the office? And we do a podcast, like, I mean, right now, but it meant here, organize the kids to do something else, Stacey’s partner you're in charge of watching the kids. If they need anything, you guys go to him, not us.
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Meghan
Don't come in the door.
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Stacey
So if somebody shows up and we cut the podcast short, you know who it is. someone in short. But I mean, also, what were they doing before that? We have a small.
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Meghan
Like a work like trampoline.
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Stacey
Workout trampoline in the office. And they were extremely excited because they didn't realize it was here. But meanwhile it's been here for months.
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Meghan
To at least two times.
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Stacey
Yeah. Where did you get this? This is so cool. So not only do they jump on it in the office, it's a like launching platform to see how far you can jump and then launch yourself to the other side of the office.
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Meghan
Which I feel is why they have, warning on trampolines that our kids it's not a real trampoline. It's like a working trampoline. So that's why they have warning on those that you're not supposed to let your kids use them because they're a little erratic and they don't bounce the same way you expect. No, this is true, but it was great fun for the two.
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Meghan
The two boys. Yep. The what are some of the hardest things that we've had to go through? Trying to combine my kids and family and running a business.
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Stacey
Not being able to balance them. Feeling the guilt on both sides, the guilt of being the parent and not being there 24/7. Because that's what we taught growing up. That to be the best mom you could possibly be, you must be there. 24/7 is the most wonderful cookie cutter mom and you know, the that fallacy of what we grew up in being taught was a good parent.
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Meghan
I still struggle with that minor little you have one little and a bunch of bigger. Yeah, mine are all still little. And I struggle with that every single day.
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Stacey
Yeah, because if you do that and you're like, great, I'm the kids are home, I'm going to stop. I'm gonna go make a beautiful supper for them, and I'm going to, you know, I'm going to read them bedtime stories. I'm going to do the all the, all the picture perfect thing with them that we've been taught the fall down of the business.
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Stacey
Then you're missing a whole bunch of things that you didn't finish or that the team would need or whatever, have those things to still have to have in business. So again, I think it goes back to like there are lots of times what we're doing work when the kids are here doing work at home, when the kids are there, or vice versa.
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Stacey
We're here at work with the kids and the team knows, not like the doorbell rang and the kids are here. Team is like, no, we're getting the door and we'll answer whatever needs to be answered at the door, not you guys, because the kids are here. That part's really nice and that they all know most of the team has had children, so they know how it is like a child balance.
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Stacey
This balancing act of adult. But also the kids were at home and we're working and the kids sort of understand just because you're not at the shop doesn't mean it stops. and watching us juggle it , I think is important for them to see as well, to understand that we are capable and they are capable of great things too, and big things too
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Meghan
I remember the picture that that your middle son drew? What do you remember what grade he was in?
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Stacey
Oh, men. Oh, it was little. Oh my gosh, I gotta find that. That's gotta be where's that's upstairs I think it's upstairs. And I forgot about that. He was in preschool I think because he was in like the one of the daycare programs they had said, you know, what do you want to be when you grow up? They give you this little cutout shape of this person and you get to decorate.
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Stacey
How? Draw it, however you whatever you'd like to be when you grow up. And so there's one kid because I go in the classroom to see this and don't bring home the classroom to see this. And one kid's like, I'm a firefighter, like my dad. And the next one is like, I'm going to be a paramedic. I'm going to be, you know, the doctor, that kind of thing.
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Stacey
And then all of a sudden I get to my middle son's picture. All it says is, I'm going to be the boss. And if you ever meet my kids and you'll understand, that is my middle son. That is 100% him to an absolutely one day he will be the boss.
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Meghan
Someone he is driven.
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Stacey
Holy. Yeah. He makes me look like I sit still. For sure he is. Which you don't no no which I don't. But we laughed so hard and it wasn't anything that we ever talked about at home. Like we never said. Mom runs a company. Mom is the boss somewhere. Mom like that was just no words that ever came out because I don't think it's not important.
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Meghan
We always talked in terms of team and like into in terms of our of the group of people that we work with. Correct. So it's not like we ever said things like, I'm the boss. Yeah. Unless they asked, like my oldest asked a couple years ago. Yeah. I was like, wouldn't meaning Stacy own it? And I think that was his first realization.
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Meghan
But like, so I'm like, did I not explain the dynamic properly to you? And glad that it's not obvious in the sense that I don't want to treat anybody like that. But also, how did you not know? or I'm giving him a false sense of what the workforce is. Oh, you are a worker, not an employer. True.
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Meghan
As I come and go and take them to things and make podcasts in the middle of the day, which he doesn't have any idea if that's a part of my job, or I'm just talking into a.
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Meghan
Microphone for the fun of it.
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Meghan
Explaining to him that, yes, we have a YouTube channel. Yes, we do these things. And he's like, that's. How does that compare to the fact that you watch YouTube and he'll watch this YouTuber, he's obsessed with this guy. And then he's like, why are you on YouTube?
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Stacey
Confused, right? Yeah, I don't, because we've done this for so long. I actually don't think I could do it any other way. I don't think I could have a regular 9 to 5 day job that doesn't work for my ... erratic schedule of children and life, and I just don't think I could do it. I mean, because I'm just not that person.
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Stacey
I've never done well with 9 to 5 but I just don't think I could where I'd be like, sorry, I gotta leave it on 3:30 because I had to go pick up my kid, and, I might be back after that, but I might not. And if I come back after that, I'll probably be here for an hour. And I probably won't get much work done.
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Stacey
Like, am I just saying that to an employer? The perks of that, you know, just up and leaving and.
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Meghan
The crazy dreaming which is in for everybody, I suppose. I mean, that's what differentiates between an entrepreneur and somebody who just wants like the people that want to work 9 to 5 and shut off at that as 5:00.
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Stacey
It's just people absolutely have friends who just love it. And I'm like, how do you not think about that? Like when you go home, you'd be like, why didn't I just know, take that table and end it around like this and like, do you not eat there? Like, no, I don't think about it at all. Like, how do you not,
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Meghan
So far away from the way that we function? Yeah. And I am absolutely not saying that either one is right now. It's hard on us. That's hard on our brain. It's hard on our mental stability to be in our head 24 seven about business, which is why it's hard to juggle the family and the business through because we don't shut it off.
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Stacey
Yeah, that's very true.
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Meghan
So there are benefits of the 9 to 5, but there are a lot of benefits that the ownership as well. Yeah. Well I think one of my most favorite quotes that I heard one time was that it's the juggling act. So the ability to have a work life balance is a farce It's not possible. So we've been fed that especially what was it on a ten, five, ten years ago where we started talking about work life balance?
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Stacey
yeah you must have a balance. And there there isn't balance enacted.
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Meghan
But so one of my favorite quotes came out of that because it's not possible to have a balance. What you're doing is juggling. And then each ball is represented by some are plastic, some are glass. Yeah, some are more important than others. So while you're juggling, which ones can you drop without losing at all? Yes. Which ones. If you drop them will they break.
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Meghan
Yes. So that's something that crosses my mind frequently. Yeah. Is right now the time that I need to put my computer away or put my phone down and make my kids make cookies, or take a deep breath and separate myself from work, because whatever's bothering me right now at work shouldn't impact how I feel at home.
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Stacey
Yeah, that's very true. That's very true. Yeah. That line, that fine line of, shutting it off and cutting it off before you bring that work home. And then hopefully that doesn't Peter into issues at home. I mean, I don't care whether you're working 9 to 5, whether or not you are an employer. I mean, that's an easy thing to drive home with you.
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Meghan
Well, and without going into whatever details, because you don't need to, you can if you want to, for some people would enjoy it. But without going into a lot of details, we asked your partner to join the business. So now it's not even just your kids are here sometimes, but he's here sometimes to here.
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Stacey
He's here all the time. yeah. So that's even harder because I would do business 24 seven. No problem. Like I'm, it's a and but I know it has to be shut off. I know there has to be times where it is just him and I as a partner, as a husband, wife or it is just my kids or it is just us as a unit of a family.
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Stacey
And we don't talk about business because you mean don't even be business. Talk with the kids because the kids are older now. So it's a thing that we know. They'll ask, well, how's everything going? What's happening? And they actually genuinely want to know. So we talked about it, which I think is good because it's a bit of education for them as well.
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Stacey
It's a bit of lessons.
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Meghan
Totally agree. I mean, as far as I'm concerned, more business taught in school would be a great idea.
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Stacey
Yeah.
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Meghan
So yeah. And at home if you talk about it at home.
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Stacey
Exactly. So yeah, no it's a little bit harder. Like we try really hard. We have a hot tub and so we go to the hot tub and sometimes we'll start talking business. And then I'm like, we can't we need to stop right now because this is the time where it's just the two of us and we're relaxing and we're supposed to be relaxing, not arguing over, you know, what's supposed to be happening to more in the schedule margins.
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Stacey
And yeah, Chris is throwing numbers that I'm not a numbers person and Chris is throwing numbers at me, like, and oh, if we put this down and then put this number here, then we do this and I'm like, I stop, listen to you. Five minutes ago, accordion and accordion. He loves that word accordion. I'm like, stop it.
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Meghan
So it, trickles into your home.
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Stacey
It sure does a lot more than it used to. Well, I know it always did. And I think that's part of why the two older guys. because we're a blended family. So the two older guys watch me work, and we're always here and, like, essentially packed them on my back as soon as I gave birth, they just were in a Snuggie and off we went to work.
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Stacey
So they watched me and watched the business grow and watched us grow as humans. And so they are very hard workers, both of them as well, to a bit of a detriment in a way, but they're driven. When they want something, they'll get it for sure.
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Meghan
Well, and that's something else that we should touch on too, because internally, all of our kids, when they were little, they were here. Yeah, mine all spent about two years in the building. I've spent less because he is he is a lot, a lot easier than his daycare says that he has two kids worth a lot. A lot of him so much because.
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Stacey
He's not.
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Meghan
Mine. So he did not stay here for two years, but the other two were in the building for two years. But we never would have made it through those years. We never we would never have what we have at this point and have been able to have our kids with us. No, as much of a headache as it was it a lot of times, because combining the two in that drastic of a circumstance was extremely difficult.
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Meghan
Like, I get so triggered when they're making noise and there are people in the building.
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Stacey
Yeah, yeah, that's always been a problem because I feel like it should be one of the bridal boutique. Right. So I feel like if you're running screaming, that totally changes the experience of what it is here. You know, especially kids screaming don't touch me. I wasn't hiding there. That wasn't.
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That.
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Stacey
You saw me like imagine. And when the shop is closed, they're allowed to run the building because they're kids. And it's a really big building. And they just are, because I think that that is a that's a really cool thing to look back on as when you're an adult, to look back and be like, remember the house I missed that and we used to hide in that closet.
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Stacey
It was super creepy. You know, like those are just good core memories for kids.
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Meghan
Well, we have so many pictures of the team members, like taking care of the kids and stuff. I found a picture recently when I was going through my photo album of Aaron went. We called her Little Aaron. What was she like? What?
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Stacey
Oh, is she a baby?
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Meghan
And she started babysitting and then like, she was a part of her family growth and then the business when she was able to work here. But she was here for almost every one of the kids. Yeah, I think just not the last. Yeah, but she I have a picture of her walking my daughter, like trying to help her walk because she wasn't walking on her own.
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Meghan
Yeah. So she's trying to she was helping her walk through the front room on the carpet which is playing with her.
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Stacey
That's so crazy.
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Meghan
The memories it creates I wouldn't have those memories. I wouldn't have pictures of my friends and family from the building with my kid, with your kids not being able to be here.
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Stacey
Yeah. That's so true.
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Meghan
And it's like having a daycare in your building in one way. Yeah. Everybody takes a little bit of time.
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Stacey
Yeah. And everybody's loved it. Like it was really quite need to watch because the ages range in the building from you know right now there's 60s. They're in their 60s and down to like in the 20s. So it's very neat to watch everyone with children and they're all women and they all dote on the kids like they still dote on the kids.
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Stacey
You know, presents are still given, they're still chocolate given, like, you know, like little tiny ones have to tell him on it’s your chocolate. like, here's a birthday present. It's crazy.
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Meghan
it's added family. Like, I mean, they even call them like, aunts. They call them grandma. Yeah, but they were here when we were little, too, like we were teenagers. And then those ones were here when we were teenagers. So they half raised us through some terrible teenage years. Sure. And now they're. That'll be.
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Stacey
A great episode right there that.
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Meghan
I was going to. I was totally throwing you under the bus there. I used that a episode and I'm like, yeah, we can talk all about all the terrible times that Stacey cause problems that I'm like, we're not. Oh, never mind.
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Stacey
No. Good try. But I mean, I did, but.
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Meghan
I had to share a quieter about my problems, I think. Yeah, it wasn't too bad now, but now they're half raising our kids, making them feel cared for.
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Stacey
Yes, I agree.
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Meghan
And I also really enjoy because my three year still little and we have a few younger girls who don't have kids right now, but are sort of in the ages where they could be thinking about it. Yeah. And then watching, especially when I have all three of them here, and the girls that can see that's what it's like.
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Stacey
Out of probably it's like the best contraception ever. They're like, nah, nah.
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Meghan
I don't think so right now
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Stacey
like, I don't know if you can hear this in the background. I hope that Zoey doesn't take it out.
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Meghan
I don't think she's gonna be able to take all of that.
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Stacey
Good, because it's insanity in the background. If you hear, like, thud, thud every so often, I don't know, at this point.
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Meghan
They're probably.
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Stacey
On the trampoline. They're on the trampoline. They've brought it out into another room now and they're jumping off of it.
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Meghan
So do you know my calm daughter is doing? She's she's drawing.
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Stacey
Is she though.
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Meghan
Well she was I last she's performing.
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Stacey
She probably that trampoline right now with the marker markers.
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Meghan
So I go to dresses or something that did happen.
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Stacey
Oh that did happen. Now mind you, that wasn't on an actual wedding gown. It was on what we call the dress book. And so the dress book is a actual wedding gown. Nobody's wedding.
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Meghan
I'm sorry to interject here, but you said it like the dress book. Don't don't.
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Stacey
Do that.
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Meghan
It's actually very happy
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Stacey
So. It's all right. It's okay. It's a dress book. is it better. But it is, wedding gown, which was a discontinued dress. So we can do anything with. And so we stuck in on mannequin and, decided to get over brides to sign their names on it after they found their gown with us. So it's very cool to have, like, the name of the bride and the date they're getting married or whatever they want to put on it.
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Stacey
So the first dress book we had was pretty full. It was pretty full. It was getting fairly full.
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Meghan
We, it started talking about trading it out for the next. Yes. So it was full enough.
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Stacey
Yeah. and then, one day we came in and there was a game of tic tac toe. It looked like on the dress book that's in black marker. Yeah.
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Meghan
And then you turned the dress a little bit and there was like, a spray of the sun and that kind of thing. And I was like, no, no, some kid got the marker or I don't know what happened, but no. And then, I was totally in, like, I was like, it could be. It could be my daughter.
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Meghan
And then. But I was half in denial. I was like, I don't think she would. And then what was it like a week later, I came in and she's holding the marker about to draw on the on the dress.
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Stacey
She'll end up being an artist or something, and it'll be worth millions of dollars, because this is like her original artwork.
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Meghan
we keep that dress so yeah.
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Meghan
They do, they cause.
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Meghan
A bit of commotion. Sometimes they do. Sometimes in good ways and sometimes in bad. Yep. They keep everybody on their toes.
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Stacey
That they do, that they do.
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Meghan
And they cause a lot of happiness.
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Stacey
Yeah, they do make a smile for that often, for sure. They're funny. I mean, right now we have one of our oldest kids working for us. And, it's funny now, the difference when he'll come in the office and start chatting away about something or dress or whatever, have you, because he's now working with us and working with the team and so it's that's a total different dynamic to have him here now actually working in the building.
00:19:23:28 - 00:19:39:01
Stacey
Whereas before they would work like they'd always come and they would mow the lawn for us or they would, you know, when they were little, we'd get them to pick up pins with this big, huge magnet. And they loved that job. Listening to the like the pins click up onto the magnet. That part was clearest. Or like they'd clean out the sewing machines and stuff.
00:19:39:01 - 00:19:44:23
Stacey
Like they'd always had, like a job. So now this was actually legitimately working for us. And it's different.
00:19:44:25 - 00:20:04:23
Meghan
It's I enjoy watching him grow. Yeah. And it's in little bits, but watching him make a plan for this needs to happen. And then on Monday I'm going to do this because this little arrived in like I was like super proud at moment of that at that time because they're like, wow, good for you.
00:20:04:23 - 00:20:07:13
Stacey
Right? Yeah. Very proud of them.
00:20:07:15 - 00:20:09:09
Meghan
It's been growth for us too.
00:20:09:14 - 00:20:10:07
Stacey
That's true.
00:20:10:09 - 00:20:27:12
Meghan
Like were trying to learn to stay like in the idea of when they're running through the building and it's triggering me and I'm getting really ticky like I'm getting real riled up because I'm so angry that they're running. Yes. And I may or may not have asked them to stop before that, but in my mind, they should have known better.
00:20:27:12 - 00:20:32:04
Stacey
But they know they're not supposed to run through the building when those clients, or if they just know end of story they knows . Exactly Yeah.
00:20:32:04 - 00:20:50:22
Meghan
So I'm trying to give them the benefit of the doubt that they didn't know that there's clients here. I don't know whatever. But I'm getting really riled up about this. But I can't very well then start screaming at. I have to stay calm and very quietly mom voice them that that's not okay right now.
00:20:50:24 - 00:20:52:10
Stacey
Get in the office.
00:20:52:11 - 00:21:08:17
Meghan
Yeah, yeah. Yes, I need to calm has definitely been. Or learning to communicate better, I believe because, I mean, I can take that on myself to be like. I didn't tell them ahead of time that there was somebody in the building and they weren't allowed to run or. No, you can't play hide and seek right now or whatever.
00:21:08:18 - 00:21:09:12
Stacey
Yes.
00:21:09:15 - 00:21:12:17
Meghan
And I think they ask better now than they did.
00:21:12:19 - 00:21:30:13
Stacey
They're pretty good, and they're not bad when they come in to sometimes to like sit and just draw and not run, like lately it's been a lot of drawing. Now, mind you, the drawing sometimes goes on the hydro bill. If it's in on, you know, that's paper on the office desk. Hydro bill gets drawn on. Yes.
00:21:30:13 - 00:21:52:08
Meghan
Mr. and I were going to fight over that bill that I need to keep a copy of, because she drew a piece of like a homework projects. Oh my goodness. And I was like, well, that's my tax filing. So I need to keep that reading that project. And again, I blame myself because I should have had things filed properly before she found them to draw.
00:21:52:12 - 00:22:05:20
Stacey
So what's it like working with kids that that it was like working with kids in the office. And that is what it it's like a roller coaster ride but is on fire. And I think the screaming because it's fun.
00:22:05:22 - 00:22:26:02
Meghan
I think for hours probably alternate. I mean, I'm sure it's just this. But then there's also screaming because we're terrified. Yeah. And then we're crying. Who knows if they're happy tears or, maybe just overwhelmed did it depends every day. But I will say I think some of the learning for them, especially for my oldest lately, has been to understand what it looks like to be overwhelmed.
00:22:26:04 - 00:22:28:18
Meghan
like, he's pretty emotional, like, no it’s a wrong word
00:22:28:18 - 00:22:37:14
Stacey
He can see emotions really well, he understands he's good at reading the room, he's good at reading emotions, I think, or understanding.
00:22:37:16 - 00:22:48:06
Meghan
He can tell when there's something wrong. Yeah. With me. Yeah. And will either ask about it or start to be really helpful to try and ease whatever's wrong.
00:22:48:07 - 00:22:48:20
Stacey
Right.
00:22:48:20 - 00:23:03:18
Meghan
So I am extremely proud of him for that, for the times where he takes it on himself to know that, like he he starts to tell his little sister, which is hilarious to me and kind of takes me out of it too, because sometimes I'm in my own head for for no reason or for not enough of a reason.
00:23:03:18 - 00:23:21:07
Meghan
But I'll be having a moment. And I do them silently, mostly because it's nobody's fault. I try not to yell at them better because it's not their fault. But so if I'm having it like I'm completely disconnected in my head and I'm trying to breathe, and then he daughter just doesn't get it. That's it, get it. No, that's not her.
00:23:21:07 - 00:23:42:15
Meghan
They're very, very, very different. but he's said multiple times to her, you need to stop talking to her. Give her a moment and she'll continue to ask the question. And he's like, no, stop. You don't understand. Like she's little, like, I totally appreciate you trying to explain this to her. She has no idea. She just wants me to answer a question right now.
00:23:42:18 - 00:23:58:00
Meghan
Which of the hard times of having them around when you're at work? Yeah, because we're here every day when they get off the bus and 99% of the time it's not a problem. Yes. And the 1% of the time I'm having my own issue that I either work or personal, whatever, that I'm having my own issue that I need to deal with.
00:23:58:03 - 00:24:05:28
Meghan
Exactly. And their needs overwhelm me. Yeah, it's a lot, but I'm happy to have them here because at least I can hug them when they get off the bus.
00:24:05:28 - 00:24:19:06
Stacey
Yeah, this is a little bit more time with them. Yeah. Then not we're not picking them up from a daycare at 6:00. Rush at home, hurry up and eat. Hurry up and have a shower. Hurry up and go to bed to start the chaos all over again.
00:24:19:11 - 00:24:31:06
Meghan
That's how I always felt about it. That it's hard to have them here sometimes, but the offset of having them around me more was always worth more. Yeah, how I feel about having them around.
00:24:31:10 - 00:24:33:18
Stacey
And know if you notice it's absolute silence.
00:24:33:24 - 00:24:44:13
Meghan
Which is only marginally concerning that are they are doesn't well. So I was going to say they're definitely still in the building. That's not a guarantee. You're just left once. That's terrifying. I'm sure they're in the building. they are old enough not to go anywhere.
00:24:44:19 - 00:24:48:28
Stacey
No no no no. But you know that silence as a parent, you're like, what are they doing?
00:24:49:00 - 00:24:51:15
Meghan
Oh my gosh, where are you? They were themselves.
00:24:51:15 - 00:24:54:21
Stacey
They don't trip. Yeah, I wouldn't be surprised if that, actually. Yeah.
00:24:54:24 - 00:25:05:07
Meghan
Well, if you're in this situation, if you want to be in this situation, if you want to start a business and you're worried about being a mom, being a parent and running a business, comment. Yeah. Send us questions.
00:25:05:07 - 00:25:06:12
Stacey
Absolutely. Happy to answer.
00:25:06:17 - 00:25:13:01
Meghan
Happy to answer. We can do more on this too because it's been a long time. Yeah. Juggling the things. Just remember that some older plastic is another.
00:25:13:06 - 00:25:14:13
Stacey
Glass.
00:25:14:15 - 00:25:22:00
Meghan
And some can break and some are more important. Yeah. So like subscribe again. We're still not I still don't know the words, but.
00:25:22:03 - 00:25:22:22
Stacey
You know what to.
00:25:22:22 - 00:25:23:12
Meghan
Do. You know what.